Let me ask you a question, mama: how often do you find yourself saying things like, "I just don't have enough time" or, "There just aren't enough hours in the day!"?
This is something I hear from mamas every single day, and I have definitely been guilty of saying these things myself on more than a few occasions. Honestly, it's a universal problem that seems to have reached epidemic proportions. We say it daily - to our husbands, our friends, our kids, and ourselves.
What I'm most curious about is, where has all the time gone?! If hundreds of thousands of people are saying that there aren't enough hours in the day and that they don't have enough time, surely something has gone really, really wrong because I doubt God shortchanged us on time by design.
I really don't think He created everything and then looked back over it and said to Himself, "Whoops! This isn't going to work for all the busy moms with a million things to do - I didn't create enough hours in the day for them to get everything done!"
Our declarations of not having enough time seem a little silly when you think about it like that, don't they?
Here's what I've discovered as a mom to four young kiddos and very full hands: it's not a time issue that we have, but a priority issue.
This is the truth, mama: you have all the time you need to do exactly what God created you to do.
You have time for the best, most important things - the things that will positively impact both you and the other people in your life. You just don't have time for #allthethings - and you're not meant to!
Think about this. Every person has the same amount of time each day to spend as they choose. Did you notice what I said there? We get to CHOOSE how we spend every single moment of our time - how we spend our time is rarely (if ever) forced on us. We. Get. To. Choose.
Take ownership of this truth, mama! Stop allowing yourself to fall victim the the lie that you don't have enough time! That is an excuse that the abundant life you're called to live isn't worthy of.
You were created to great things, things unique to only you, and no one can replace you or fulfill the calling placed on your life. It's time to take ownership of your life by taking personal responsibility for your choices and priorities so that you can live the best life and make the greatest impact possible.
Here are a few practical ways to help you get started:
1. Change how you THINK
First things first, you're going to have to practice shifting how you see and think about time. You've had years and years of practice telling yourself and others that you don't have enough time for everything, so it's going to take some focus and practice to undo that habit.
I recommend that you start a simple daily journaling practice. Every day spend a few minutes writing truths about your time:
"I have enough time for the things that are important."
"I get to choose how I'm spending my time, no one else."
"Every moment of my time is an opportunity to spend well."
"My time is valuable and precious and I will spend it on only the best things."
And so on. Writing and thinking truthful affirmations like these will help rewire your brain to believe that you have all the time you need to live the life you were created to.
You'll definitely be faced with hard decisions every day about how to spend your time, but instead of avoiding those decisions with the "I don't have time" excuse, embrace your ability to be exactly who God made you to be in the season you're in and use wisdom as you make the best choices you can.
2. Change how you SPEAK
We've heard over and over again that our words have power, and I wholeheartedly agree! When we work on changing our internal language, the words we say will be quick to follow suit.
It's important for us be honest with ourselves and others when we say yes and no to different things. When you make the shift from saying, "I don't have time" to saying "this isn't a priority" you'll be amazed by how quickly things fall into proper perspective and get a whole lot more simple (notice, I didn't say easy!)
"I'd love to get together, I just don't have time right now" becomes "getting together isn't a priority right now."
"I want to eat healthier and exercise more, I just don't have the time right now" becomes "eating healthy and exercising isn't a priority right now."
"I'd love to write a book, or see that movie, or start my own business, I just don't have time right now" becomes "it just isn't a priority for me right now."
See the difference? When we stop saying we don't have the time for things, uncomfortable as it might be, we're in a great place to own where we are and decide how to move forward without the empty excuse of having no time keeping us stuck where we're at.
There's no reason to let your thoughts and beliefs about time keep you stuck any longer, mama!
3. Change what you DO
By this point, I can hear you in my head shouting, begging and pleading with me, "No Kelsey, these things really ARE a priority, there just aren't enough hours in the day for them all!"
Which I understand, I really do. But let me share something with you that completely blew my mind the first time I read it.
In a talk he gave at the World Domination Summit, Founder of Get Rich Slowly J.D. Roth said:
"It's not what we say that is a priority, but what we actually DO that is a priority."
Mind. Blown. So, what this means is that we don't get to say things are priorities just because we want them to be. They don't become priorities until we are actually spending our time on them!
Ultimately if you want something enough, you'll find the time for it, no matter the cost. If it's important enough to you, you'll find a way. If it's not, you'll find excuses, deluding yourself into thinking you don't have the time.
Start noticing what you're actually spending your time on throughout the day, and maybe even consider keeping track for a few days in the notes app on your phone or in a little notebook.
I guarantee you'll be amazed to discover how much time is leaking out of your days, being spent on a bunch of things that don't matter, leaving you left without the time you want to spend on the things that do!
So if you want something to be a priority, it's up to you to start taking action to make that thing an actual priority in your life. It's going to take radical bravery and boldness on your part, but you were created for this! You CAN do it mama.
Life was meant to be lived fully and abundantly - that's the kind of life God created you for! In order to step into that kind of life, it's time for you to start saying NO to thinking you don't have enough time, and start saying YES to the things that matter most by choosing to spend your valuable time on them.
There will be seasons for everything in your life, so stop panicking and thinking that you're supposed to do everything perfectly, all at once. Life isn't a series of races with finish lines you're supposed to constantly be crossing. It's a long haul marathon that, if run well, will lead you to the finish line with a race time and legacy you're happy with.